Why I Ignored Your LinkedIn Connection Request

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Why I Ignored Your LinkedIn Connection Request

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The unfortunate fact is that I probably end up choosing to ignore 90% of the connection requests that I receive on LinkedIn. I don’t want to and I may be missing out on some great connections but, the simple fact is that you gave me absolutely no reason to accept your request in the first place.

I am not a LION (LinkedIn Open Networker) so I am a little more discriminating about who I connect to. I am not an internet marketer with services that appeal to a very large base so, having thousands of unknown connections (reach) holds no appeal for me.

When I do connect to you, I am giving you access to my contact information and my connections and I am happy to do that. However, I did have one gentleman who chose to abuse that privilege by leveraging our association in an inappropriate manner so, I’m a wee bit jaded. Yes, we disconnected.

So, why did I turn you down? I don’t just say “no”. I really want to connect and I will make every effort that I can to see that happen!

  • If I know you and trust you, we will connect.
  • If you send me a personalized invitation, there is probably a 99% or better chance that I will accept but only after picking myself up off the floor since I only see one of these about once every blue moon.
  • If you send me a template invitation and I don’t know you and trust you, now we go to the next step. B.T.W., as LinkedIn does not have a field for a middle initial, my first name is listed as “Craig M.” and when I receive any correspondence addressed to that name, the jig is up.
  • I do get that LinkedIn has removed the ability to personalize invitations in many situations (very sore point) so receiving a template invitation is not an automatic disqualifier. However, we also know how aggressive LinkedIn has become at suggesting connections (another sore point) and those invitations generally go out as templates so … here is my last step …
  • Have you even looked at my profile? If you have not, we are probably done.

Occasionally, if I am torn on whether or not to accept an invitation, I will exercise the option to request more information from you prior to making that decision. Guess what. 90% of those requests go unanswered which, in turn, answers my question.

It’s pretty simple. Show me that you are actually interested in connecting, provide me a reason to do so, and we are golden. Also note that as a LinkedIn premium member I have activated OpenLink which means that anybody can private message me without having a 1st degree connection or access to InMail. Let’s connect! I’d really love to get to know you!

Craig M. Jamieson
Craig M. Jamieson is a lifelong B2B salesperson, manager, owner, and a networking enthusiast. Adaptive Business Services provides solutions related to the sales professional including Boise's best B2B leads group, NetWorks! Boise Valley. We are a Nimble SCRM Solution Partner and a Value Added Associate for TTI Performance Systems. Craig also conducts training and workshops primarily in social selling and communication skills. Craig is also the author of "The Small Business' Guide to Social CRM", now available on Amazon!
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  • I almost never ignore a connection request on LinkedIn. My goal over there is to be findable by anyone searching for my services. Once I’ve connected with somebody, I consider it mission accomplished. I never reach out to them. I just want to be a first- or second-level connection for everybody whose looking for someone who does what I do.

    With that out of the way, I’m also aware that not everybody uses LinkedIn the way I do. This article demonstrates a perfectly logical way to review incoming connection requests, so when you’re the sender, always be aware that the recipient might not accept them all, for the reasons mentioned here, and act accordingly.

    • Thank you for your comments, Michael! Yes, we all have different needs. Once we find what works best for each of us … press on forward!:)

      Thank you, again!

      • Times have changed. Now I ignore LinkedIn completely.

        • LOL. So what are you paying attention to now, Michael?

          • I’m not aware of any good B2B networking sites, so any social media I use won’t be as targeted as LinkedIn used to be.

          • I hear that and, like you say, times have changed. The chances of them not changing even more … adapt and adjust:) Tx, Michael!